hi there! sorry it’s been a while, i finished work about two weeks ago, and then went to london so i’ve been on a bit of a holiday when it comes to writing – but honestly, writing is its own kind of holiday. anyway, a lot of friends on twitter asked me to write more about my skin care regime, and i was about to make a thread and then remembered i have a blog (lol). anyway, i’m going to write what i do when i’m mentally well i’m also going to write about what i try to do when i’m not. i don’t think it’s fair to anyone, least of all myself, to pretend i do an 8-step skincare routine every single night, when in reality i keep it up for a few weeks, stop for another few weeks, and start again. that’s usually the pattern. sometimes you just need to let yourself be disabled! working on your health constantly is really, really tiring, and it’s a process of learning to forgive yourself when your health isn’t all that good. remember: recovery. is. not. linear.
anyways, this is my fun-filled skincare regime(s)!
another disclaimer: i am not a dermatologist. i have oily skin that is prone to spots and redness. i’ve been trying to take care of my skin for the past eight years, and this is the regime that has ultimately proven the most effective for me. i might get some stuff scientifically wrong. let me know ifi do. this is all just info i’ve accumulated from magazines, books, makeup artists, and doctors.
okay, here we go!
THE ARROGANT MENTALLY WELL ONE
-1 (the prequel). exfoliate.
only exfoliate once or twice a week! you don’t wanna get rid of all of your skin! some recommend exfoliating after cleansing but in my experience, it’s easier, cleaner, and more satisfying to do it first. in my experience, if you do it after cleansing, even after rinsing it off etc, you will still have annoying little remnants of your exfoliant left on your face. i find it easier to do it first and it’ll come off after all the cleansing.
1. oil cleansing.
a lot of my fellow oily skin types will recoil at the idea of putting oil on your face, but trust me, it’s exactly what your skin needs. you’ve gotta fight oil with more oil, which sounds like a contradiction. but believe me, if you oil-cleanse your face, not only will it get rid of your makeup better than ANY other product, but once you wash it away with hot water, you will feel amazing. it’s like getting rid of the bad oil, all the sweat etc, and replacing it with nourishing, good oil. do it!! oil-cleansing has become more mainstream now so it’s easier to find an oil cleanser from most brands. i currently use a No7 one because about a year ago it was the only high-street one i could find!
2. water cleansing.
most other cleansers are water-based. milks (which aren’t usually real milk), foams, face wash, all that stuff. i don’t think you need an explanation for why water-based cleansers are nice. they even out your face and once you’ve oil-cleansed, the water cleanser gets past all that icky surface dirt and makes its way through to deep-cleanse your skin. doing both oil-cleansing and then water-cleansing will change 👏 your 👏 life 👏
throw some cold water on your face. you don’t need an expensive toner. if you wanna buy an actual toner with like. “benefits” or whatever, i’d thoroughly recommend lush’s tea tree water. it feels amazing, it’s a natural antiseptic (hot tip: spray it on your pillow for nice smells and also getting rid of all the grease on the pillow from your hair and face!). plus, when you run out, you can just refill the spray bottle with water and then put some lavender oil drops in there. there will still be a tea tree residue so it becomes a delicious tea tree and lavender toner. that’s what i do anyway! lavender is really good for sleep hygiene! you can use any essential oil you like the smell of though, i’m not your real dad, you can decide for yourself.
this is where you use those products that are like “Hey. How are you doing. I am going to get rid of your spots within 4 hours.” and they don’t, but y’know, they’re better than other spot treatments because they’re more powerful? or those face masks that are like “Well hello there sport. Would you like a bomb? What kind of bomb, you ask? Why, a moisture bomb, you stupid child.” this is the time to use those magical products that promise to fix all your problems. well, all your skin problems. they can’t sort out your intimacy issues. that’s for you to sort out yourself.
does anyone else hate the word serum? i used to get serum and semen mixed up all the time. they’re too similar and i don’t like it. anyway, if you’re younger than 30, don’t use a special serum thing. if you’re under that age, you could use something like rosehip oil and spread that all over your face. actually, everyone should do that. rosehip oil is amazing and beautiful and soft and rich in vitamin c. use it. i’m almost 20 so i know nothing about serums for real grown-ups. how and ever! i don’t buy into that age-defying bullshit. signs of “age” are beautiful and prove to the world how powerful you are and don’t let the patriarchy beat you down!!
my main motto in life is (if you doodoo on yourself… and i live by that)
sorry. one of the mottos i have, which i think i read in a KISS magazine (RIP) when i was 15, is “moisturising is non-negotiable”. honey, you’ve GOT to moisturise. it’s! so! important! i don’t care what kind of skin you have! EVERYONE needs it! moisturise bitch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE SELF FORGIVENESS REGIME
put baby wipes beside your bed. ideally sensitive ones, or moisturising ones, or even both if you’re feeling fancy, but if you don’t have access to that, normal baby wipes are good. you could also keep a bottle of micellar water and a facecloth near your bed if you want to be more earth-friendly, which is great, but takes a little bit more effort. do whatever is easiest.
drink your water and try to get some sleep. you got this. take your time. forgive yourself. spread love to others.
well that’s it everybody, but remember: my skin only improved once i did this one quick trick:
GIVE UP ANIMAL PRODUCTS AND MEN. YOUR SKIN WILL CLEAR UP IMMEDIATELY.
grá mór xoxo